Posted by: mcm180 | February 7, 2012

Resonating Upward Using Love and Laughter (6WordMemoirs)

So, this morning I got an email from with an interesting request; To summarize my life story with a 6 word Mini-Memoir!

I read a few sample entries, but didn’t want to taint my creative experience. After a little musing, I came up with “Resonating Upward using Love & Laughter.”

Resonating Upward
I’ve recently embraced the notion that our universe from basic nuclear levels to the most complex galactic processes operate using vibrations and undulations. When two things resonate, it’s because they’re on the same wavelength. I want to continually resonate on better, higher, richer wavelengths when it comes to thoughts, experiences, and people.

Using Love and Laughter
If you’ve ever been in my presence, I’m sure you’ve noticed I love to smile and laugh with gusto! Love and Laughter are the two responses I use to react to and come to terms with my world. It may not initially start off as love, but even when people or situations are hurtful, responding with Love elevates you to a higher plane. When you put out something so pure, so powerful, … transformation is bound to happen (internally and externally). Laughter has often been called medicine for the soul. When I respond with with laughter, I learn how to not sweat the small stuff, and more importantly to not take myself too seriously. It’s the one contagious thing, I don’t mind catching and spreading.

So there you have it; my 6-Word Mini-Memoir and the small novella attached, as an explanation. LOL.

What 6 words would you choose?


Posted by: mcm180 | April 22, 2011

Indoor RockClimb

Went indoor rock climbing for the first time in NYC (first exposure was in P.A. then again outdoors in California).

Invited by my friend Scott Mollica @SMM353, I decided to change up my Saturday afternoons and climb ON! Invited some of my boys, but no one took the bait. I had a great time with a great group of new guys. Can’t wait to go again!

Posted by: mcm180 | February 25, 2011

finding the golden part of silence

Before you speak, listen.
Before you write, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
…Before you quit, try.
Before you retire, save.
Before you die, give.
~ William Arthur Ward

After a rowdy, “crowdy”, and tumultuously eventful weekend, in which everything seems to have been tossed up in the air (including my precious smartphone), … now …. I’m left with golden serene silence.

My paternal grandmother passed away on Tuesday 2/22/11 – my EVO fell off the belt clip on Saturday during my first outing this weekend, causing me to miss my second party; but continue .. I did. I went to two more parties, and hung out until Monday afternoon. I even hurt my right ring finger (breaking my fall on wet stairs). Then my phone was found but then lost again, when I went to the club to retrieve it. My director who’s supported my ascent in the company told me he put in his two weeks; followed by another IT member who I share office space with, informing me of the same. I spent all day Wednesday running errands and was enveloped by introspective silence. How could I not? If it’s not a text (with my morse code ringtone), it’s an FB update, or a gmail, or a yahoo mail, or a tweet, or friends location check-in, or a bank account alert, ….it’s always something.

I resisted being “cut-off” at first, but purposefully kept twitter & facebook, how shall I say… “light”. I also upset one of my closest friends adding more silence …forcing me to reach inward; to sojourn solo. I took the therapeutic opportunity to clean, do dishes, sweep and mop, and now write (as suggested by soulbrother Louie).

I had already decided that after the weekend, I would make some changes, shift priorities, focus and fight. Fight for what I deserve, focus on where I want to be, prioritize what is important; ultimately change some behavior. “Be careful what you ask for”, is quite the understatement. Actually experiencing the Universe at work, whether you are fully ready or not, always take some getting used to… until you get on board, that is. Trusting that you will hear a message, benefit from a significant drop in distractions, or tap into a powerful inner self who needs silence in order to create a better and stronger you, is what I presumed (and now realize) is the very essence of meditation. I’d been meaning to set aside time to start that. LOL

The quote at the top, cosmically enough, summarizes the rambling of my verbose paragraphs that follow. The succinct sentences non-judgmentally delineate the importance, the beauty, the necessity, and the power of silence and the meditation it allows.

Posted by: mcm180 | January 25, 2011


borrowed from the daily om Scorpio reading for today

“We tend to become sad when one or more of our basic emotional needs is not being met. If we treat sadness as an indication that we should look critically at the way our lives have been unfolding as of late, it can help us determine what we need to do to regain our usual vigor and enthusiasm. Ignoring sadness nets us little in the end. It is only when we confront it directly and honor the role it plays in our existence that it fulfills its larger purpose. You will find that your sad mood helps you better understand yourself today when you acknowledge it directly.”

Posted by: mcm180 | January 11, 2011

1/11/11 Circle of Life


This day is like the clasp on a necklace… It symbolizes death and life … Beginning and end… The past and the future!

I lost my first friend to AIDS on this date 8 years ago. Angel Hance… I will always treasure everything you taught me, most of all…to love and live my life.

That same year … I made a best friend who’s birthday is on the same day. Jay Ancheta – thank you for being my first SoulSistah (one that rocks the dancefloor and the hardwood floor (volleyball) right along with me) … So passionately sharing in my passions!

This past year… I made a new set of best friends, one of whom also has death knocking on his “1/11 door”… Jimmy Gonzales … If I could take some of the pain of losing your mom on this day, from you… Trust me, I would sneak away with twice the allotted limit .

Why???? L-O-V-E . 1/11
… Trinity . God… God is L-O-V-E.

No matter what is remembered and/or celebrated on this date … The driving force.. The effervescent zest of life… The rushing river of emotions … All empty into a tranquil sea of Love. I’m thankful for my relationship with my creator, the comfort provided indirectly via my relationships, and the balance which keeps me going!

Posted by: mcm180 | October 14, 2010

onward and forward

scorpio: You are ready to try something different if you think it may bring you happiness today. You don’t want to sit by and wait for life to happen; instead use these days to push through your resistance to change. Don’t worry, even if you aren’t sure about your destination; for now, any forward movement is better than returning to the past. It’s not time to be overly cautious. Take a few deep breaths and then boldly follow your intuition.

I will do !!  with only a few hours of wakefulness .. I’ve already given two friends the same advice in different situations and scenarios  ..

“doesn’t matter [what position they want you for]  … you go in giving thanks for the one you want! The one you will ROCK&SOCK! give thanks in advance for what you will make of it.  it’s about you! you ask the universe to align to what you want.  BE the agent of change.. not the recipient being acted upon!”

and another one .. asking .. why do all the good things happen to you. … I tell her “What you think about and thank about, you bring about” it all starts with gratitude then add a lil faith, a pinch of envisioning, and some tidying/preparing the way to receive… recipe for success!

Obviously i use it for many different things…   I used it for Smurfette (my FJ  Cruiser) … for my promotions, … and now for my second chance at love

…. smiles and drifts/signs off.

Posted by: mcm180 | October 9, 2010

Good drowning!

“The primary purpose of growing rice in flooded paddies is to drown the weeds surrounding the young seedlings.” VerizonFactForToday



Sometimes we feel like we’re drowning with responsibilities and have too many things to do and lists & tasks & like things are falling apart .. but in reality it’s for your own good!

It helps to see it as God/The Universe  drowning  out the weeds in your life so that the real and intended seeds can grow and flourish . Staying calm, cool, and collected is key. Knowing that it all happens for a reason and that it will work out in my favor gets me by.

Just thought I’d share.

1. First Important Lesson – “Know The Cleaning Lady”

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: “What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?”

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

“Absolutely,” said the professor. “In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say “hello.”

I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2. Second Important Lesson – “Pickup In The Rain”

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home.

A special note was attached. It read: “Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband’s bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.”

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3. Third Important Lesson – “Remember Those Who Serve”

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. “How much is an ice cream sundae?” he asked. “50¢,” replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

“Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?” he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. “35¢!” she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins. “I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.

When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4. Fourth Important Lesson – “The Obstacles In Our Path”

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand – “Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.”

5. Fifth Important Lesson – “Giving When It Counts”

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, “Yes, I’ll do it if it will save her.”

As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, “Will I start to die right away?”.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

Posted by: mcm180 | September 10, 2010


I was juuuust about 2 get mad at my horoscope today : “Scorpio lately you’ve become obsessed w/ romance. There are other things that make life worthwhile”
my initial knee-jerk reaction was to object with everything in my soloplex (and thensome)  … Because it’s been so long since a boy made my heart skip a beat, since I get nervous when a particular “he enters the room”,  since I’ve smiled from the inside out.  I can’t fight this feeling ….    WHY shouldn’t I get caught up in the rapturous bliss of a budding new romance….  ????

BUT  then I receive a facebook message from a girl I spent a couple of semesters at Cornell w/ …thanking me :

“for being so supportive and caring even though we haven’t seen each other in YEARS! I am so very proud of you and am grateful to know you”

I had no choice but to SimmahDownNauw, … receive the message from the Universe… and give thanks for what has been, what is, and what…. (in due time) will be.

Now I get another FB message:
Hey Maynor! I came across your page cause we both commented on Becky’s status and I wanted to see what you were up to! 🙂 I have to say I loved reading your bio, and am so happy to see how good things are going for you!! Thanks for sharing all that on your profile, because I know that can be life changing for someone who reads it! :).”

Awwwwwww how heartwarming and literally moved me to tears.

Exhibit C, your honor

I just got a loving text out of the blue from a straight friend who’s never texted me b4 wishing me a happy Friday!  then he sent me a smiley face pic.


Posted by: mcm180 | August 14, 2010

wedding song (…even still)

I’ve loved this song,  even before I acknowledged that I love men. I plan to sing it at my wedding … which at this rate will probably HAVE to be held at Yankee Stadium .. (I’m assuming of course, that my alluded-to, blueprintPhase mate will be far from an introvert like me)…  thank goodness for evites. Hahahaha.

I Will Be Here(Steven Curtis Chapman)

Tomorrow morning if you wake up
and the sun does not appear
I will be here
If in the dark, we lose sight of love
Hold my hand, and have no fear
‘Cause I will be here

I will be here
When you feel like being quiet
When you need to speak your mind
I will listen
And I will be here
When the laughter turns to cryin’
Through the winning, losing and trying
We’ll be together
I will be here

Tomorrow morning, if you wake up
And the future is unclear
I will be here
Just as sure as seasons were made for change
Our lifetimes were made for these years
So I will be here

I will be here
And you can cry on my shoulder
When the mirror tells us we’re older
I will hold you
And I will be here
To watch you grow in beauty
And tell you all the things you are to me
I will be here

I will be true to the promise I have made
To you and to the One who gave you to me

Tomorrow morning, if you wake up
And the sun does not appear
I will be here
Oh, I will be here.

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